As many of you know, I used to be a chunkster. From about the age of 6 through 23, I was on the chunky side. I wasn't unfit, in fact, I was probably more fit than I am now, but if looks told the whole story, I clearly should not have been a personal trainer. My appearance didn't take into account my athleticism, my exercise routine, my education in the fitness industry. In fact, I was a personal trainer, marathon coach, collegiate athlete, and fitness instructor, all while I was on the chunky side. But in my mind, no matter how great of a personal trainer I was, I labeled myself as "the fat trainer." This self-imposed label, that I told to myself on a daily basis became ingrained in my head and my psyche. And you know what? What you think about comes about. I BECAME the fat trainer amongst my slim peers who "looked the part."
As long as I continued to label myself with this nickname, I would always BE the fat trainer. It wasn't until I shed the label, consciously stopped calling myself "the fat trainer," and recognized how often I did label myself as such, that I finally stopped being the fat trainer!
Labeling myself as The Fat Trainer was one of those puzzle pieces that I talk about, that helped create my wellness puzzle. As long as my head trash/self talk continued, that puzzle piece would always be missing. It wasn't until I shed the head trash, consciously stopped calling myself the fat trainer, and avoided judging myself based on weight, that I was able to put the healthy self-talk puzzle piece in place in my puzzle.
It didn't happen overnight, but when it finally did happen, I shed the weight, and now I was no longer The Fat Trainer! Release yourself from the labels, and you'll release yourself from BEING the label.
This is why, when I hear my clients mention a negative self-talk thought, or say "I'm fat" or "I hate my arms" or anything along those lines, I make them immediately say something that is positive about themselves, and that affirms their awesomeness. They don't like it, but the key is that we need to retrain our brains. We need to rewire our thought patterns. We need to stop judging ourselves. We need to be gentle with ourselves.
So, next time you have a negative self-talk thought, or "head trash" though, ask yourself "would I say this to a friend? Would I call my friend fat? Would I tell my friend that her arms are too big?" If the answer is no, then let's join together to stop saying it to ourselves!
As long as I labeled myself as "The Fat Trainer" I was the fat trainer. Release the labels, release the result.